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The Reasons & Types of Adult Tantrums We Must Know.
Disclaimer: All the words written below are the writer’s personal thoughts, researched and experience-based curations. They’re solely aimed towards personal/self-awareness & growth.
Being in the early 20s, as much I dread adulting, there are some things I am happy I don’t do that the people of my age group usually do. I don’t drink alcohol (just once-twice a year to be honest), I don’t smoke, I am not a party person so, I don’t go to parties, I don’t date. Basically, I am content in my adulthood.Yet. I know it’s not going to get easier so I am just preparing for it by keeping my mental health in check. That’s the need of the hour. Yet, I am difficult on some days, because frankly, young adults are usually grown up teenagers right?
I have seen adults around me with some unbearable & intolerable issues. I thought, ‘why don’t I behave like that or what if I do and I don’t know?’ So, I decided to dig deep into adult behavioural facts and I came across Adult Tantrums!! I was shook yet intrigued because I finally had the answer for everything!
Adult Tantrums, as mentioned on psychology today:
Temper Tantrums, in general, are disruptive behaviours or emotional outbursts that involve physical acts or screaming. Many children never develop good coping skills — the tantrums continue into adulthood. Road rage, for example, is an adult temper tantrum.
Now that I know the term, I feel it’s my responsibility to share the information as much as possible, because it directly strikes to our mental health.
Adult Tantrum is a real thing and there are several reasons for it. The first one is — Being stupid. NO, I AM KIDDING. Let’s talk about WHAT ARE THOSE ADULT TANTRUMS!
The list are the kind of tantrums adults throw on a daily basis. These may include:
- Using a high pitch or a loud tone of voice while talking. (Yes, it’s kind of a tantrum. Normally people talk in a medium to low tone/pitch).
- Flinching, eyes rolling, frowning or no expression face. (I didn’t think about it this way before, but these are actual tantrums! Especially in a group or a workplace).
- Getting irritated by every little thing. (Okay. I throw this tantrum everyday!)
- Walking fast or back & forth in aggression. (No, Walking back & forth while talking on a phone is not a tantrum. Thank god!…).
- Aggressive hand gestures . (No, hitting your sibling doesn’t count.) Basically, while talking face to face.
These were some I summarised after searching “adult tantrums” on the internet! I got to know this today that “adult tantrums” is a real thing! I thought it was something we used to make fun of each other. Like using phrases at someone , “Don’t be such a baby”, “ why are you being so silly”, “you’re crazy”, “Are you out of your mind?”…. Guess what, all of this effects the adult even more than the reasons for their tantrums! So, just stop asking or reacting like this!
“This is all related to our Mental Health and the way it is being dealt with is not the right way.”
But, what can be the reasons for tantrum in adults? I thought about it and the way it has been taken in the world so far, I think WE MUST TALK ABOUT IT.
Dealing With Adult Tantrums:
Adult Temper Tantrum, Adult tantrum Therapy etc. are real discussed things!! It is only related to our psychology. An adult throwing tantrums, according to psychology & internet, can be because of the following reasons:
- Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Autism spectrum disorders
- Bipolar disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Post traumatic stress disorder
- Substance abuse
I KNOW!!!!! I had no idea! …
Okay, I had some idea. Now I have a lot of ideas…..Not EUREKA level ideas but eureka level. Like how can we identify and deal with all this on our own?
The above reasons for adult tantrums are too heavy to even think about, but people actually have these issues and they must be acknowledged. This is all related to our Mental Health and the way it is being dealt with is not the right way. Not because there isn’t any help available, there is. People just aren’t aware about the side-effects of any mental health issue. We ignore our day to day behaviour thinking of it as a bad day, PMS, Mood Swings etc. But we must think about how often we are having a certain negative emotion or slight negative feeling. We must monitor ourselves — mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.
There are several ways to deal with adult tantrums, mental health issues or even to monitor our each move on our own:
“Whenever you’re feeling unsure or lost, journal”
- JOURNALING: I personally feel that journaling or writing things down is the best way to be self aware. Journaling helps us to understand not just what’s happening around or with us but also what’s happening inside us. It keeps the track of our emotions and why are we having them. Whenever you’re feeling unsure or lost, journal/ write it. It works like magic.
“Don’t let yourself lose yourself.”
2. SWITCHING OFF: The television, the phone, the laptop or any other screen you’re using! Take a break from technology. Technology is a blessing but only if we use it wisely. It can make us forget about all the good things we have in our lives, if we use it addictively. So switch off everything for a while. Do something else instead and come back to it, when everything is under control. Don’t let yourself lose yourself.
“Take 3 deep breaths. You got this.”
3. WORK IT OUT BY WORKING OUT: Exercise, Yoga or Running or even sports- any physical form of exercise is another way to channelise negative energy into something productive. It helps your brain and heart and also helps your emotional health. Meditation is another way you can channel the energy and stay calm and stress free. Whenever you start feeling anything you don’t want to, take 3 deep breaths. You got this.
“Once you share it with the world, you’ll see that you’re not alone in it.”
4. TALK ABOUT IT: Talking is the best way to feel better instantly. But I understand it’s hard to take control when your brain & heart are fighting over each other. It can make you feel alone and anxious. In that case, If you can not talk to a person, you can share your feelings in different ways. You can write blogs, create art and share it, click pictures, or even create music or anything you’re capable of. Once you share it with the world, you’ll see that you’re not alone in it. There are so many people who feel the same way and now that you’ve shared your story in some creative way, it has inspired those people who were hesitant to talk about it, to create for themselves. So, Create. Share. Love.
When I started writing, I didn’t know what it is exactly aiming towards. Now, I have figured that not just I want to understand the world better, but moreover I want to make myself & people aware of who they are & who they can be. So, I hope, this was helpful to you. Take care.
Thanks for reading. Namaste.
“Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain With You”- Alfred Adler.